Ever since I graduated from college, I’ve felt less and less certain about what I’m doing with my life. I don’t know what kind of career I want, what kind of relationship I should be in, or how I want to live my life. It feels like a quarter-life crisis. How can I figure out who I am and what I want? How can I get out of this rut and start moving forward again? – Chinna in Edmonds, WA
LYNN: Start exploring and doing! I found myself in a similar seemingly rudderless situation after graduate school. I got involved with things that interested me and tried out options that peaked my curiosity. Rather than worry about where I was headed, I focused on the journey. What I was learning, what got me excited, and where I wanted to pass. The hardest part can be taking that first step, and then the next. You’ll find you can shake the doldrums as you become engaged. You’ll likely discover a passion or two along the way. So in the immortal words of Nike – Just Do It!
TINA: The best way to move is to put one foot in front of the other. I realize this seems too basic…as is breathing. For many of us, our lives will take many turns that are more a winding path than a linear road. Sometimes it is easier to identify what we don’t like in our lives rather than try to focus on the perfect situation. In that way, we can guide our decisions through the process of elimination.
Whatever the path, do what feels right to you. We all have that inner voice that we tend to ignore – listen. To really toss things up, do the opposite of what you think you should be doing. Turn right – no, turn left. Go straight – no, back up. By creating distractions you can become clear in your direction.
Lynn Whitbeck is the co-founder and President of Petite2Queen. She is focused on identifying and evaluating opportunities for women at work, helping them define their personal roadmap. She dedicates herself to delivering tools and insights, embracing visualization of the big picture, and identifying and implementing the minutiae of detail. Lynn aims to share lessons learned along her journey and enable positive uplift for women.